Tuesday, September 17, 2013

And.....we're back!

I got a lot of emails, facebook messages, and instagrams about my blog being down but don't worry it's back in action. I decided to shut it down 2 weeks ago after our House Hunters episode aired because it was a semi stressful time for me, I was low on sleep, the pregnancy has been exhausting, I had the unexpected emotions of something horrible happening to a close friend of mine and THEN to top it off I stumbled upon a House Hunter's forum that had brought 1,000 hits to my blog the Saturday after our episode. I knew I should not have clicked the stinking link, I knew better because people ALWAYS are bashing the people on the episodes, because well they personally know us now. I mean hello they saw a TINY glimpse into our life in the 30 minute episode so that automatically makes them know my family and what we stand for. I cannot stand when people talk about people on the internet in their little chat rooms behind their computer screens. Obviously when watching or reading things you form an opinion, everyone does, but then writing that opinion out and bashing others in my eyes is just disgusting. 
These wonderful new friends of ours were referring to us as The Dugger's which I actually take as a compliment, thanks, a family with good morals and God at the center. I will take that dig ALL. DAY. LONG. What I won't take is my husband being referred to as Andrea Yates husband and you assuming that because my husband has barefoot obsession that he treats me like Andrea Yates, and MAKES me be in the kitchen all day, barefoot like a poor ole housewife. Tell me how the hell you could come to that assumption? And then that we are over populating the world. We had 3 kids when the episode aired. 3. KIDS. really. REALLY?? Sorry that my husband and I love each other, that we support our family not only financially but with the faith of our church.God forbid we have children that will learn from us and go out into the world and make it a better place. This among other sweet assumptions you made about our faith, which is Catholic, not Mormon as if it should really matter. We love God, is that so freaking horrible? I still can't get over how many people were so CONCERNED about us having our boys share a room? A bedroom is for sleeping, that is all we use them for. They have other areas of the house that will have their desks, and entertainment so if the room is big enough why does it matter? My husband shared a room with his 2 brothers until he was like 13 and guess what, the bond those 3 have is UNBREAKABLE, they are best friends. Not sure why us having our TODDLERS share a room is so horrid. Did you happen to think that MAYBE when they get older they might not share a room? Weird and crazy thought! Ugh I could go on and on about the crap these new friends of ours talked about. This was one of the reasons I did not mention on my actual blog when the episode was going to air, I only mentioned it on my personal facebook and instagram just because I wanted people who actually KNOW us to be aware that the episode was airing. But they found my blog anyway. I guess I should have known better and not clicked the forum link from my page hits, but obviously I was curious. 

The last thing that flicked me over the edge to fully shut down the blog was they started commenting on my most recent post about my friend Kelli, saying "Oh wow she is friends with the mom who tried to kill her daughter" which could not be more from the truth. Yes, I am Kelli's friend and you darn well better believe I will still be her friend through this horrible situation. But I will not be talked bad about for being friends with someone who they know nothing about. As I said in my most recent vlog the Kelli I know would never have done such a thing. NEVER in a million years. The Kelli I know was the most loving, giving, sweet person I have ever encountered. Yes, the action and what she tried to do is unacceptable and horrid but I stand by the fact that the person who committed that act was not indeed Kelli in her right state of mind. Not by a long shot. I choose my friends and who I associate with very carefully and I will stand by each and every one of my friends if I believe they are deep down a good person. I will not tolerate bullcrap accusations from people who do not know the story, the struggle and their life. Just because you read a CNN or People article doesn't make you a Kelli expert, just as I probably am not a full expert but I can tell you that in all my encounters and exchanges with Kelli she was an amazing person. She just made a horrid mistake. I hope that this situation has a good outcome from the parents of Autistic and other special cases to get more assistance and not be turned away for help. I just pray that it opens some eyes. It makes me so mad because Kelli tried to get awareness for an entire year to their struggle and many autistic parents struggle and only got so far in the media and now I am in the grocery store check out with my friends face plastered on the cover of People magazine. It just sucks. The good news is that both her and Issy are alive and well. I am praying for their entire family and I hope you do too, for Kelli to get better mentally, for their family to try to pick up the pieces and I just pray this whole ordeal doesn't drag on for years legally. I just want them all to heal. 

Anyways, that is why I shut my blog down. Yes, I may be a baby and run when people are mean, whatever. I have feelings. I love my family and my friends with every ounce of my being and when we are attacked it does effect me. That is why I choose to surround myself with loving family and friends. So my sweet leaving note for today....
Table for More will resume regular blogging next week. Lots of updates as far as my babies in preschool, our house renovations, me entering the THIRD trimester, gosh we even had a wedding anniversary mixed in there!! haha! So I will be back, I just wanted to let you all know why I had disappeared for a moment!:) xoxo

19 comments:

  1. Bravo sweetie! They don't know you and they don't know the real Kelli! People can hide behind their computers and act like complete douchebags and that is just unacceptable. I am so glad that you are back. I heart you!

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  2. I had NO IDEA why you shut down your blog, but I'm so glad you are back! That's horrible, I hate when people judge, especially based on faulty assumptions. My biggest pet peeve is when people judge family size. Why is FAMILY PLANNING, which is an intimate decision between spouses and God, ANYONE'S BUSINESS but theirs? It's incredibly rude!

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  3. Glad you are back! Good for you for stopping for a bit, I couldn't imagine all that happening at once. People are idiots, and feel like they are unstoppable hiding behind their computers, and will say just about anything to get a rise out of someone. I hate that you became a victim of this, but good for you for standing up for your beliefs and values. Screw them for hating on you! And I would totally be honoured by being called the Duggers too :)

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  4. I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. It seems like a lot of stress at once! I can't even imagine. I followed Kelli a little here and there through your blog, but I had no idea what happened. My thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family. I hope that they all get the peace and help and that they all deserve so much.

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  5. I have been reading your blog for a couple of years and have never posted a comment until now... but I felt I had to. The internet makes for the nastiest bullies because they can hide behind their anonymity. You are being you, you're true to yourself, your values, and your family- and haters will always hate- but they will never change YOU and that's what's most important! I'm sorry those comments were said at all!

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  6. Great post Mama! I cannot believe that people are actually so rude... It is funny that they are "concerned" about your family and all I ask myself when people say stuff like that is: Who raised these people? HONEST TO GOD. It is awful! I am glad you put this out there though!

    PS. You looked adorable with your preggo belly on IG.... Take care!

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  7. Who in the world are these people on these forums? Who has time to write on forums?! I know you (via this blog) and I couldn't tell half those things from the episode (I didn't even notice Jordan barefoot) so they are making their own stupid assumptions. They should know what happens when you make assumptions. Try not to let it bother you, focus on the good in all of your blog followers.

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  8. Glad you are back! Ignore the asinine miscreants that like to clog the web with their vulgarity and hate. You are too good for that crap!

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  9. i missed your episode, but i really wanted to see it! don't worry about what people say on the internet, i really do feel like people get addicted to being mean without having to show their faces.

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    1. because i'm nosy i looked for the forum and it was silly! you have to remember Catholics/Mormons are living up to ideals so different from the majority of secular America people are bound to be intrigued. It cracks me up that most people who are anti big families/religious ties are so in love with animals to the point where they think they're on the same level as humans. I think every animal deserves love and respect but jeez, it's okay for a dog to be shown outside for a 20 minute episode lol.

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  10. I am so happy you are back! I was worried some horribly mean people made you not want to blog anymore. Wah! I read every day and love it. Here's some bloggy love xoxoxox.

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  11. I am glad you are back. As far as Kelli, I was speaking with another faculty member who is also a Psych-Mental Health nurse, and she said she does not blame Kelli one bit. I am going to be noisy and look at the forum as well, just to tick myself off for them cutting down my beautiful family. Keep your opinions to yourself. I feel blessed to have a wonderful son, beautiful daughter in law and three amazing grandsons. Love you all, xoxoxoxo

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  12. Glad to see you back :) I'm in the middle of the second trimester and can't believe it!!!!!

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  13. I think your family and values are top notch. I think you're a bit crazy for having three tiny boys but hey whatever. The one I have is enough to put me over the edge, I don't know how you do it with three and soon to be four!!! Super mom! And I really can't wait to find out what baby #4 is!!!! Keep doing what your doing and ignore the haters. You kind of have to wonder who has the time or even cares that much to write on these forums anyway.

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  14. Glad you are back!!!!!!! We missed you and can't wait to read all the updates you busy lady:):):)

    Julie
    www.thechirpingmoms.com

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  15. So glad you're back! Nothing but love for you over here! <3

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  16. People are cruel and mean, let God deal with them. Hold your head high sweetie! Glad your back :)

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